Results of Grace Growth to Potential – (Bev) We now want to look at the results of grace. One of those is that each marriage partner is able to grow to his/her potential. When your mate is expressing grace to you, you will blossom and grow. Your mate is providing an environment where your maximum growth is possible. Several years ago, I became very interested in Myers-Briggs Personality Type. Bob encouraged me to take the qualifying course, even though it cost around $800 at the time. I don’t know about you, but we never have $800 lying around that we’re trying to figure out how to spend. By investing in me this way, Bob was shouting his grace and support of me. And as a result, I now am in business for myself, with the Myers-Briggs as a foundational part of my training. Confidence in Taking Risks – (Bob) When you are given the freedom to fail, you are free to try new things without the fear of ridicule. This allows you to dream dreams, experiment, and think outside of the box. If you know me well, I love to think outside of the box. Early in our marriage, this frightened Bev, but over the years she has tried not to squelch my ideas and experiments. Increased Vulnerability – (Bev) I am a pretty private person. But Bob makes it easy for me to vulnerable and transparent with him, because he is supportive of me, wants the best for me, forgives me, and is patient with my failures. Preserved Dignity and Self-worth – (Bob) When grace is expressed to you consistently, it allows you to enjoy who God made you to be. Instead of being in a defensive or retaliation mode, you are free to operate in your areas of strength. Neither of you are threatened by each other, because you are appreciated and esteemed.
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