Grace is Not Being a doormat – Showing grace does not mean you must give in on every point. A graceful marriage has give and take from equal partners. Avoiding conflict – This would be setting aside truth or avoiding disagreements for the sake of “peace.” Any healthy marriage involves ironing out disagreements. Excusing addictions, abuse, unfaithfulness-- These are serious issues that must be faced. If someone has a spouse with a chronic addiction, for example, giving grace is not calling the boss to make excuses, but sometimes, graciously and kindly, showing the spouse the door until he/she gets help.
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