Facing Reality Together Use these questions to help you to take stock of reality. Don’t attempt to answer all categories; rather, choose the most pressing one. Make sure to have some fun, too! YOURSELF Am I willing to accept myself – strengths and weaknesses? Do I know my own strengths and weaknesses? Do I spend the majority of my time operating in my areas of strength? Do I need to forgive myself for anything? Am I growing? What are my goals – physically, mentally, socially, spiritually? YOUR SPOUSE Am I willing to accept my spouse – strengths and weaknesses? Do I need to forgive my spouse for anything? Are we spending consistent quality time with each other? Do we function as a well-oiled machine? Do we need help?
YOUR RELATIONSHIP In what ways are we growing closer together? Being pulled apart? What do you need from me to strengthen our relationship? What I desire from you to strengthen our relationship … What are our priorities as a couple? How am I doing in satisfying you sexually? Is there something we need to change to make this area of our life better for us? COMMUNICATION What are we doing well in this area? What do we need to improve? Do you feel you are being heard by me? Am I sharing enough about me with you? Are we hurting each other in any way by our communication?
THE ATMOSPHERE IN YOUR HOME Is unconditional love constant in our home? How is our anger level? Do we have enough family time? Do we have enough fun? Are we overcommitted? YOUR CHILDREN Am I willing to accept each child – strengths and weaknesses? Do I need to forgive any of my children for anything? Am I spending consistent quality time with each child? Are we satisfied with how we are disciplining our children? Are we allowing each child to blossom in an area of strength? Are there issues we need to address – character, behavior, physical issues, emotional issues, developmental issues, educational issues, etc. Do we need help?
PARENTS/IN-LAWS Am I willing to accept my parents/in-laws – strengths and weaknesses? Do I need to forgive them for anything? Are there any unresolved issues we need to discuss? EDUCATION Do I have the education I need? If not, do I have a plan to obtain it? Are there other areas I want to learn about?
FINANCES Are we living within our means? Do we have money in savings for an emergency? Will we be able to afford college for our children? Are we on track for our retirement? Are we in control of our finances? Where do we want to be financially in 5 years, 10 years? How do we get there? Do we need help?
VOCATION Am I happy in my vocation? Is there additional training I need to get to do my job well/retain my job? What are my vocational goals? What steps do I need to take to achieve these goals? Do I need help? HEALTH Am I taking care of myself? Am I getting enough sleep? Am I getting enough exercise? Am I taking enough time off/vacation? Are there health issues I need to address? Do we have adequate health insurance?
SEASON OF LIFE What are the benefits of the season of life in which I find myself? What are the drawbacks? Am I comparing myself with another person who is in a different season of life than I am? How can I capitalize on this season of life?
SPIRITUAL JOURNEY Is there something we need to do to encourage spiritual growth in our home? Am I satisfied with how my life is aligned with God’s truth? Why or why not? Is there any change we would like to make in our church involvement? Are there people in our lives whom we need to be caring for spiritually? Is my spiritual life affecting your life positively or negatively?
CRISIS OR CHRONIC PROBLEM Is there a crisis or chronic problem we need to address? What are some possible solutions to this problem? Is there a first step we want to take? Do we need help?
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